Don’t Be Quick To Judge

Like many before me, my search for a photo started by wading through collections of stock photos to find one that I believed could be a proper use of the cropping tool and one that tells a compelling story. I decided to get a bit personal with this submission by using it to highlight the highs and lows of being an individual who struggles with their mental health; specifically, an individual who struggles with a “Cluster B” personality disorder. I wanted to take an image that could tell two different stories and figured that by starting with the crop and then showing the full image it would lend itself better to the story that I was trying to tell.

Jo Charles “Sad Man”, edited stock photo.

From this image, we see that the man is distraught. He is overcome by negative emotions and is trying to collect himself. He is at the “low stage.”

Dan Grytsku for Alamy Stock Photo “friendship, sports and entertainment concept – happy male friends supporting football team at home. One man happy, another sad.” Royalty Free Image

But when the crop is removed, we see that the man is joined by a friend. One who is celebrating. Now we have the full picture and the full story: While one friend is celebrating a win, the other friend is distraught. Now how does this relate to mental health? For many of us, a team losing a game would not cause us to become this distraught, but what about what’s lurking beneath the surface? For those of us who suffer from “Cluster B” personality disorders, we are used to being told that we “make mountains out of molehills.” That our reactions to seemingly low-stakes situations aren’t normal, neglecting the fact that we often cannot control our reactions to these situations. That our “splitting” is a result of poorly managed distress and our attempts to self-soothe when faced with that distress.